The Sanctity of Marriage

Dr. Emeka Onyegecha Ozurumba is an ordained Minister and Reverend, who has since encountering the Lord devoted exclusive time to evangelistic work around the world, with the uncompromising message and mission of returning the body of Christ to His undiluted truth. A successful practicing attorney at law, community and business leader prior to his calling, he is the founder of Today Evangelical Ministries, and author of “The Two Keys To The Kingdom Of God.”

Born in Nnorie, Ngor Okpala, Imo State, Nigeria, from where he relocated to USA to attend the University of Oregon, Eugene, Oregon, where he obtained his bachelor’s degree. Later he obtained his Doctor of Jurisprudence from Thurgood Marshall School of Law, Texas Southern University, Houston, Texas; he was admitted to the Texas bar the same year of graduation.

About the book

This book is a spirited teaching on the mystery of God’s original intent for painstakingly forming matrimonial union between a man and a woman, for His glory— the sacredness and inviolableness of marriage which God formed to hallow His name and mimic His heavenly family. Without spiritual understanding of the sanctity and the mystery of the union that God has formed, we will always have problems (in marriage)—the mystery of how God started this sacred union (marriage) the way He did, and why He has decreed that nobody (inclusive of the parties in marriage) should put it asunder. The grossly callous indifference toward marriage, the almost erosion of the sanctity of same, the world relegation of marriage to a mere social contract which is subject to repudiation at will, and the epidemic dissolution of that which is the oldest and sacred institution of God, even among Christians, makes this message exigent— a matter to be viewed with utmost concern and urgency by all true children of God. Christian marriages ought to be modeled after the heavenly family— sacred, indivisible, and inviolable; but if we live in conformity with the world trend and order, we are of the world; for a tree is known by its fruits.

Chapter THREE

ONENESS IN MARRIAGE

Let us pause now and begin to think about this oneness – you and your spouse as one. As it is said – can you cut off your nose to spite your face? As it is written: “And the eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you”: nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” “And if one member suffers, all the members suffer with it; or if one member is honored, all the members rejoice with it” (1 Cor. 12:21, 26). Think about taking a needle and pricking your finger. It will bleed, but the pain is felt by the entire body. But how many of us really do bleed, when we walk in the direction that puts another in pain? How many of us will cut off our head if there is a problem and go and buy another head to replace it. Do you consider that everything you do must not hurt the other, because doing so is hurting yourself? Do you ever stop to consider first the one in your life; for this is a divine virtue, becoming of a true child of God? If you cannot knowingly harm yourself, if you feel pain when you are hurt, then never knowingly harm your spouse, for you are one flesh. Will you then lie to, or deceive yourself, or hold secrets from or destroy yourself? “Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man (devilish and sinful deeds) with his deeds” (Col. 3:9). Whoever rebels against this essential principle of oneness is in a marriage contrary to God’s intent, purpose and will.

Whoever lies, deceives and destroys his/her spouse does so against God who cannot be mocked. There is no secret with God; all things are naked before His presence. But whoever lies to, and deceives himself is not worth living; for he has reached the height of delusion. As it is written: “Am I a God at hand,” says the Lord, “And not a God afar off? Can anyone hide himself in secret places, So I shall not see him?” says the Lord; Do I not fill heaven and earth?” says the Lord” (Jer. 23: 24). “For there is nothing hidden which will not be revealed, nor has anything been kept secret but that it should come to light” (Mark 4:22). “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap” (Gal. 6:7).

I seriously want us to spend quality time and think about the implications of this oneness. God sent His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to come on earth and set the record straight, for the final time. He set the record straight so that people will stop going astray in marriage. What record is Jesus setting straight? It is the record or mistake that had been made under the Mosaic Law. “When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house” (Deut. 24:1). Moses had recommended that the people divorce their wives due to the hardness of their hearts. The old record was for the Jews to divorce their wives at any moment and for any reason just by writing a letter of divorce. “And the Pharisees came to Him, tempting Him and saying to Him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ “and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? “Therefore they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to Him, “Why did Moses then command to give a bill of divorce and to put her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hard-heartedness Moses allowed you to put away your wives; but from the beginning it was not so” (Matt. 19:3-8).

But, Jesus Christ came to correct that and said it was not to be so, and was never so with God from the beginning. “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery” (Matt. 5:31, 32).

Christ goes back to the Old Testament and to the original intent of God in Genesis 2:24 where He (God) said that a husband and his wife are one. Christ has come and given us this standard – the same standard – no difference. There is nothing in the New Testament that contradicts the Old Testament. The New clarifies the Old! Where and to the extent that man’s traditions, lustful desires and hardness of heart attempted to suppress and or distort God’s original intent and purpose, God, in fulfillment of His promised new covenant sent His Son to come and correct it (see Jer. 31:31-34; Heb. 8:8-12). That is why Christ said in Matthew 5:17 that He (Christ) did not come to destroy the law but to fulfill that which was the law of God at the beginning.

Christ came to correct and to call back human beings that are going astray – who are not operating the way they should (as God originally intended). If you allow human beings, they will come up with their own doctrines and righteousness and their own terminology and flawed logic. God says our righteousness is like filthy rags.
Those who are now the ‘called of God’ are those who can follow and implicitly obey Christ. A true Christian is a follower (disciple) of Christ; whoever does not have His Spirit is none of His (see Rom. 8:9). Forget about the mistakes of your past, especially now when God has mercifully and graciously opened your eyes to understand what Christ is saying. It is a privilege (opportunity from God) to find out that God has removed the scales off our eyes so that we can now understand His original will and purpose. After that, Christ says, if we do not live the way He has shown us, it becomes a curse, because we would have no more excuse; for we cannot avail ourselves of our presumptuous sin. No wonder the disciples and apostles with Christ said that none could obey this marriage concept. They said it would then be better for them not to marry. “His disciples said to Him [JESUS], if this is the case of the man with his wife, it is not good to marry. But He said to them, “All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given” (Matt. 19:10, 11).
Not everyone is given to understand the mystery of marriage, and the kingdom of God. It is only those who are led by the Spirit of God who can understand, accept, hear and do these things. This is given to the children of God who would do exactly what God says to do. As it is written: “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, these are sons of God” (Rom. 8:14). Those who are led by His Spirit are those who live and walk in His
Spirit – these are the ones who hear and accept God’s word (see John 8:47; 1 John 4:6). That’s why He (God) says no man should put asunder that which He says is one. There is only one person who can put a marriage asunder and that is God – the one who has established it. He also has prescribed a condition precedent to dissolution of marriage – defilement of marriage/His holy temple.

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